Parents and Carers
How to support your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans*, Queer or Questioning child?
Many parents have contacted us to find out how they can best support their child when they are ‘coming out’, when they questioning their sexuality and/or gender identity or when you have a ‘feeling’ about their sexuality and/or gender identity.
By making it to this page its a sign that you really want the best for your child.
Seven ways you can support your child
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By rephrasing questions, for example ‘are you seeing someone’ rather than ‘do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?’ or words such as ‘partner’ and ‘other half’ can show people that you are open and accepting, it allows LGBT*Q+ people, should they wish, to feel comfortable speaking about their sexuality/gender identity and partners and avoid awkward explanations and discussion.
Gender neutral language is also best practise to use in your every day as it isn’t always clear what pronouns a person uses to identify with. By using gender neutral language, we minimise the chance of misgendering people.
You can still support your LGBT*Q+ child indirectly by making idle conversation, for example, talking about an LGBT celebrity in a positive way, or mentioning a LGBT*Q+ family friend. This allows you to show you are open and accepting, something many LGBT*Q+ young people feel the people around them are not.
How can we support you?
We are available to speak to you about the issues your child might be facing.
We would also encourage you to learn about the issues LGBT*Q+ young people face and engage with different LGBT*Q+ events and happenings.
The links page of this website can be found here. This shows some useful links to helpful sites from around the web.
The FFLAG website (Friends and Family of Lesbians And Gays) is a helpful place to look for support and information. (link)
Supporting Trans*, Gender Variant or Non-Binary children
Over the last 10 years we have seen an increase in the number of Trans*, Gender Variant or Non-Binary young people contacting us for support.
We understand the complexities and challenges faced by Trans*, Gender Variant or Non-Binary young people and their parents/carers and families.
In response to this we are in the process of establishing TRANS* FAMILIES – a support group for the parents / carers 0f Trans*, Gender Variant or Non-Binary children under 13 years.
Involving parents and carers of Trans*, Gender Variant or Non-Binary children, the group offers a warm and emotionally supportive environment for parents / carers, with the chance to share highs and lows of supporting a Trans*, Gender Variant or Non-Binary child, supporting siblings and wider family.
We want it to be a place where parents/carers are able to talk, learn valuable information, and share their stories.
While their children and young people meet and make friends with other Trans*, Gender Variant or Non-Binary people their own ages.
Parents/carers will need to remain on site for the Trans* Families sessions.